Funeral For Marly

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For the last time I come
to devart for help..
desperate in need of a solution
The situation is hopeless..
my dad just passed away
and the trouble has started
We don't even have time to
morn our fathers death ...
I don't even have the energy
to go on...
it sickens me how this world
works

problem nr1:
You all know we moved from
spain to belgium in february.
well, here is the deal..
my dad allways had health
insurance, so my mom
took care of all the papers etc
because they moved it took a long
while before everything was in order.
so my dad's insurance would start
at the 27th of juli..
The major operation took place
at the 26th ... yes indeed.. trouble
now my mom has a bill of that
operation.. wich is over 1600USD
... and we don't have that.. we did
gather over 500 USD here on devart
but it all went to small bills and
the cost of staying at the hospital.



problem nr2:
so my dad died, and within 12hrs
my mom and dads bank account
blocked.
my mom and dad lived on my
dad's pension wich was 1500euros
a month.
she will not recieve any pension for 6
whole months.
we do have an institution here that
helps people, and she will get 600-
800euros a month, that's 500USD
.. not much if you have to pay
650euros for rent.. so now my
sister moved in to make sure my
mom can pay the rent ands stuff..



problem nr3:
my dad's life insurance..
well, my dad payed life insurance
for i dunno 30 years?
but when my parents moved to spain
they had to close the account..
and they could open up the account
when they got back.
so they live in spain for 4 yrs
and when they got back my dad
couldn't get life insurance because
he had a tumour in his hip.
oh the joy of life
So, now we have to come up with
3500USD for the funeral...
wich we don't have, and my mom
cannot take a loan here in belgium
neither can i, because i work part-time.
and my bf allready has a loan.
we could have buried him as they
called it here 'bury him with the poor'
but my dad doens't deserve that..
we just want a proper funeral for him.
So we did what anyone els would do
go to his family and ask if they could
all add in 400USD (he has 4sisters and 2 bro's)
that would make 2400USD.. so it would
cover a lot of the expences, and then
maybe a few friends could add in some cash..
but then there comes

problem nr4:
his brothers and sisters ..
they want to pay 3000USD
all together, under a few conditions
and demands...
2 hours after my dad dies, his
brothers and sisters were making demands
can you believe it????
how f*cked up is that?
so they want him buried in their own
town, and the funeral must be in their home town,
an open coffin, flowers like this,in that church.. bla bla bla
......
my dad clearly talked about his funeral, and he
we want to do it like he asked.. wouldn't you?
my dad wants to be cremated, and the ashes
in an urn at my mom's place.. he wants
a little bit of ashes cast into the ocean..
and we as daughters get necklaces with a little bit of ash
and he picked out the church for the funeral..

can you believe his family? I just got so
pissed when i heard..
now we don't know what to do..
we have to come up with 4000USD..
can anyone help us?
Belgium is so f*cked up?
how do you hande these things
in other countries??
donations will help a bit.. but we are
desperate..
and I don't think i have the energy to
organize a huge fundraiser...
.. we are so tired...
if we can't pay for the funeral.
I don't know what to do...
this is our final plee for help


you can donate to our paypal account

jamie_V_L_@hotmail.com

thu/ oct 18/ 2007:
R.I.P. Dad

Today at 12.30 my dad passed
away, the cancer had spread
everywhere, kindeys,lungs, ..
His heart stopped beating
and he died painless, but he
did have a lot of problems
with breathing
he fell asleep yesterday
around noon and never woke up.

I'm going to miss him so much he
was a great artist and a wonderfull
person , he never did anyone any
harm, he was so gentle and caring
he even saved insects when he
was alive.. a wonderfull person
such a shame he had to go so
young..
He asked me if i could thank all
of you who have donated and
everyone that has supported us
with kind words.. he really wanted
do it himself.... but it's too late now.
Well we are on a small break now
... I still don't know how we will
pay for the funeral.. but things
will work out..
Thank you everyone

Thu/oct 6/2007 :

We are going to the hospital now.
they said he has five days max.
the doctor couldn't believe
it could ge so fast...
we are staying at the hospital and
after that, my sister is moving in
with my mom.. you will not see us
here for a long time, maybe when I
need distraction I will answer some
notes etc... but that's it..
bye for now!

Last thursday my dad had trouble breathing
My mom asked if they could take
pictures of his
lungs.. they waited untill yesterday..
like they allways waited to long with
everything ...
the results are in, they will not tell
my momon the phone.
But my dad is in a seperate room,
and my mom could sleep there
tonight...
it's something they only do when
a patient is terminal....
They didn't tell her yet what it is..
but my aunts were there,
and the nurse told them
it was lungcancer and water
in his lungs..... yesterday my mom
called hospital to ask if she should go to
him.. but they told her
"it's not for this night"
....I can't stop crying...
i'm only 23 and he didn't have
the chance to see my children..
my sister (the model) she just
doesn't know what to do...
my mom has a weak heart
I am terrified something will
happen to her too
last week everyone thought he
would get better and
now he is going to die...
Tonight he stopt breathing
2 times...
My mom is over there right now,
I will know more in 3 hours..
but i don't know when we will
be online after the news..
maybe you will not see
us here for a month or maybe longer..
the little money that is left from
donations will go to the funeral...
my sister has to take an appartement
with my mom, because if he dies,
my mom will have no income
for 6 months ..
0 USD a month..if you can donate something
please help us... I don't know how we
are ever going to get through this
without any extra money
everything is going so fast,
I wish I could turn back time...
I didn't even know how to bring it to you
guys... you all wanted him to get better...
and to tell you
that he is not going to get better is breaking my heart

i'm sorry i can't go on typing

http://news.deviantart.com/article/34463/

you can read all about it here, we didn't knew he was going to die, i think I wrote that around september.
My dad's birthday was the 22nd of september..